Cognitive Debt
A term coined by the MIT Media Lab in 2025 to describe what they saw on EEG: students who had leaned on AI for cognitive work showed reduced engagement in memory, attention, and executive networks even when they later tried to work on their own. The researchers chose the word "debt" because the bill arrives not now, but later.
Cognitive Offloading
A psychology term for delegating a cognitive task that your brain could do, to an external tool, pen and paper, a calculator, a search engine, an AI. When the saved mental effort actually goes into higher-order thinking, the trade is good. When the capability itself gets offloaded alongside the task, the tool has replaced the skill rather than extending it. The difference lies in order and in awareness.
Emotion Naming
A move: taking whatever you feel right now and putting it into a specific word. "I am angry." "That leaves me feeling let down." Brain imaging finds that simply naming a feeling reduces amygdala activity in a measurable way, and the intensity of the feeling drops a notch. It is especially useful with children, who often do not yet know what is happening inside them.
H.A.L.T.
A simple first-check tool. When a child (or an adult) suddenly cannot cope, run through four questions, one per letter: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Find the one that is unmet, meet it first, and only then take up the rest. Often the behavior settles on its own.
Illusion of Competence
The belief that one has mastered something because an external aid (notes, templates, an AI) produced a successful output. Cui and Jalal (2026) named it, and placed it upstream of learned helplessness: the student first senses "I did not do this," then slides toward "I cannot do this." It is more dangerous than a bad grade, because the student in this state does not even think to ask for help.
Learned Helplessness
A phenomenon first described by Martin Seligman in 1967. When an individual repeatedly finds that nothing they do changes the outcome, they learn the lesson "my actions do not matter," and later refuse to try even when escape is possible. Cui and Jalal (2026) showed the same old mechanism can now be triggered by AI dependency, becoming a new trap for a generation of students. Seligman later also showed that helplessness is reversible, but only through re-experiencing that action and outcome are connected in the body.
Neijuan (Rolling Inwards)
A term used often by young people in China to describe an exhausting treadmill. In the same group, everyone works harder than before, but the reward being distributed does not grow, and sometimes shrinks. The only way to keep up with the group's rising intensity is to raise your own intensity. It is decoupled from the ordinary intuition that effort pays off, you are getting stronger, and your return is getting thinner. Most often applied to study, career, and urban life.
Positive Psychology
The direction Martin Seligman proposed in 1998 as president of the American Psychological Association. It studies not what makes people fall apart, but what makes them strong, happy, and engaged, and whether these states can be trained. Core themes include strengths spotting, gratitude letters, three good things, meaning, and close relationships. The related interventions have been shown in randomized trials to reduce depression and raise well-being, at effect sizes near 0.3.
Psychological Defenses
A set of mental moves that quickly lower the volume on painful feelings, such as avoidance, denial, blaming others, or distracting with something else. In the short run they protect us from being swamped by shame, guilt, or sadness. In the long run, if they become the only strategy, we lose the chance to actually work through what we feel.
Social Therapy (Macfarlane's usage)
A term Cambridge anthropologist Alan Macfarlane uses for his three-step pattern of responding to a young person in distress. Step one, acknowledge the problem is real and shared by many. Step two, hand over a measure of hope that is not empty, and tell the questioner not to give up. Step three, offer a concrete, small, doable-today next step. The order matters more than the content: validation must come before advice. It is not tied to any clinical school and does not require credentials. Anyone willing to speak honestly can use it, a parent, a teacher, a friend, and the voice inside your own head.